The Three Part Marriage

We understand that we are made up of three parts, spirit, soul and body. We are a physical person, a mental person and a spiritual person—all in one. In order to operate at maximum efficiency, we must have all parts on the same page. How many times have we tried to focus on a fast but have had opposition by either our mind or body? It can be distracting until all three parts focus on the fast—the body accepting no food, the mind in subjection to the spirit and focused on praying with the spirit leading the prayer.
Is it any wonder that the divorce rate among ‘Christians’ is now 50%. Why is this? Maybe it is because each partner to the marriage is not aligned spirit, soul and body in the marriage. Paul reminded us that “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31. When we are joined to our spouse, we become one flesh. Here is the first potential problem. What if we were not a virgin when we got married. That means we became one flesh with the person with whom we first had sex. While we may not have intended it, we joined our first sex partner and they became our physical spouse. What about the person we thought about and fantasized about being our spouse during a time of dating. When we spoke our ‘I love you’ and we joined ourselves together emotionally, we joined our mental (emotional) spouse. Finally, we find ‘mister right’ or ‘miss right’ and we come together in Holy Matrimony and make a covenant before God and we become joined together in the spirit. We now have a spirit spouse. If we have not asked forgiveness for our earlier physical and emotional bonding and repented from such conduct, we now have a marriage that is with three people instead of one.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 “….and a three-fold cord is not quickly broken.” If we are physically, mentally and spiritually married to the same person, that marriage becomes the three-fold cord that will not be easily broken, but if we are not physically, mentally and spiritually married to the same person, our marriage is at risk. Let us take a good look at our own ‘marriage’ history. With whom have we been joined? If our spouse was not the first person we had sex with, we need to identify who that person was, ask God to forgive us, repent for that conduct, announce that the person who committed that sin (us) is dead (which we are because as Paul says we die daily) to that sin which now breaks the physical marriage via the death of one of the parties which now makes us free to establish a physical marriage with our spouse. We need to ask God to honor our physical marriage to our spouse which will be consummated by the first sexual relationship we have with our spouse after we have repented before God. God will honor that commitment by us and we will then be physically married to our spouse. Likewise, we need to do the same with our mental (emotional) marriage so that when we finish process and become emotionally married to our spouse, we will then be physically, mentally and spiritually married to our spouse. If we were not married in the church or if we did not fully understand the covenant we were making, we can become spiritually married to our spouse by a confirmation of our vows with our pastor and make a re-dedication of our marriage in God’s sight.
Once we become physically, mentally (emotionally) and spiritually married to our spouse, our marriage will be that three-fold cord which will be able to withstand to attack of the devil and with the mercy and grace of God we will not be a divorce statistic.

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